Parenting - Jgn Terlalu Memaksa Anak Kita Berjaya

Jangan terlalu memaksa anak kita berjaya. Kanak-kanak sekolah hari ini pada umumnya tidak begitu gembira. Menjadi pelajar bukanlah sesuatu yang menggembirakan dan kanak-kanak hari ini tidak mempunyai peluang untuk menikmati kehidupan sepenuhnya. Kebanyakan daripada mereka dinafikan alam kanak-kanak mereka.

Ramai daripada mereka sebenarnya melakukan `kerja' dalam tempoh masa yang lebih lama berbanding orang dewasa. Satu perkara biasa bagi mereka untuk bersedia ke sekolah pada pukul 5.30 pagi dan tiba di rumah pada pukul 2 petang.

Kemudian mereka menghadiri tuisyen, aktiviti ko-kurikulum, seni, muzik, sempoa, ballet, berenang dan kelas lain untuk menjadikan mereka lebih pintar. Ada yang mengakhiri hari mereka selepas tengah malam, setelah bergelut Untuk menyelesaikan kerja rumah mereka.

Selama lima jam di sekolah, mereka dikehendaki menumpukan sepenuh perhatian
- duduk diam dan mendengar. Sesetengahnya takut untuk meminta kebenaran untuk ke bilik air atau dibenarkan untuk ke bilik air pada waktu tertentu saja.

Apabila kita merenung mata anak-anak hari ini, kita melihat semakin kurang bercahaya. Mereka kelihatan kurang berminat dan kurang bersemangat dalam apa yang diajar. Tiada lagi keseronokan atau dahagakan pengetahuan yang ditunjukkan dalam kerja sekolah mereka.

Malah lebih buruk, tekanan sekolah dan peperiksaan yang terpaksa dilalui menyebabkan ramai daripada mereka tidak mampu untuk menghadapinya. Ini disuarakan dalam bentuk ketakutan, kesakitan, keganasan dan akhirnya membunuh diri.

Ada sesuatu yang tidak kena dengan sistem pendidikan kita, tuntutan ibu bapa dan masyarakat jika mereka menekan anak-anak kita sehingga membawa kepada kematian yang menyedihkan.

Sesuatu perlu dilakukan untuk mengurangkan tekanan yang terpaksa dihadapi oleh anak-anak kita. Walaupun tidak terdapat angka rasmi mengenai pelajar yang membunuh diri di negara ini, petunjuk daripada negara jiran kita di selatan, Singapura amat mengejutkan.

Dalam satu kajian di sana, satu daripada tiga kanak-kanak menganggap hidup ini tidak bermakna. Kanak-kanak dan remaja merupakan 10 peratus daripada mereka cuba untuk membunuh diri. Pada tahun 2000, terdapat 21 remaja yang membunuh diri.

Pada tahun 2001, terdapat 28 orang yang membunuh diri. Ibu bapa tidak seharusnya mengambil kira keputusan peperiksaan sebagai criteria utama untuk menilai prestasi kanak-kanak dalam pendidikan.

Dari hari pertama di sekolah, kebanyakan ibu bapa menuntut anak-anak mereka supaya mendapat keputusan yang terbaik untuk ke sekolah terbaik dan universiti. Kanak-kanak dibentuk untuk mengambil peperiksaan dan alam kanak-kanak menjadi neraka peperiksaan.

Pendidikan sebenar kanak-kanak dibelakangkan. Mengembangkan keperibadian, kemahiran sosial dan emosi; membina komunikasi dan kemahiran kognitif dan paling penting mencipta nilai dan watak yang baik menjadi tidak penting.

Minoriti kecil yang mendapat gred yang elok dalam sistem pendidikan kita secara teorinya adalah pemenang. Yang lain dianggap kalah dan dianggap lemah atau gagal.

Kami berharap ibu bapa di Malaysia akan mengambil iktibar daripada permulaan musim persekolahan ini untuk memikirkan ke arah mana anak-anak kita akan dibentuk dan sensitif kepada perasaan mereka, tekanan dan menanganinya. Alam persekolahan tidak seharusnya menjadi seksaan kepada anak-anak kita.

- S.M. MOHAMED IDRIS, Presiden Persatuan Pengguna Pulau Pinang.

sekadar renungan pada ibubapa....bagaimana nak elakkan anak kita drpd jadi mangsa?

40 KESILAPAN IBU BAPA
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1. Pemilihan jodoh tanpa memperhitungkan mengenai zuriat

2. Perhubungan suami isteri tanpa memperhitungkan mengenai zuriat

3. Kurang berlemah lembut terhadap anak-anak

4. Memaki hamun sebagai cara menegur kesilapan anak-anak

5. Tidak berusaha mempelbagaikan makanan yang disajikan kepada anak-anak

6. Jarang bersama anak-anak sewaktu mereka sedang makan

7. Melahirkan suasana yang kurang seronok ketika makan

8. Membeza-bezakan kasih sayang terhadap anak-anak

9. Kurang melahirkan kasih sayang

10. Sering mengeluh di hadapan anak-anak

11. Tidak meraikan anak-anak ketika mereka pergi dan pulang dari sekolah

12. Tidak mengenalkan anak-anak dengan konsep keadilan

13. Tidak memberatkan pendidikan agama di kalangan anak-anak

14. Tidak terlibat dengan urusan pelajaran anak-anak

15. Tidak memprogramkan masa rehat dan riadah anak-anak

16. Tidak menggalakkan dan menyediakan suasana suka membaca

17. Mengizinkan anak-anak menjamah makanan dan minuman yang tidak halal

18. Tidak menunjukkan contoh tauladan yang baik di hadapan anak-anak

19. Jarang meluangkan masa untuk bergurau senda dengan anak-anak

20. Terdapat jurang komunikasi di antara ibubapa dengan anak-anak

21. Tidak menggunakan bahasa yang betul

22. Suka bertengkar di hadapan anak-anak

23. Sentiasa menunjukkan muka masam di hadapan anak-anak

24. Tidak membimbing anak-anak supaya mematuhi syariat

25. Memberi kebebasan yang berlebihan kepada anak-anak

26. Terlalu mengongkong kebebasan anak-anak

27. Tidak menunaikan janji yang dibuat terhadap anak-anak

28. Tidak menunjukkan minat kepada aktiviti anak-anak

29. Tidak memupuk semangat membaca di kalangan anak-anak

30. Tidak berminat melayan pertanyaan atau kemusykilan anak-anak

31. Tidak memberi perhatian terhadap buah fikiran anak-anak

32. Lambat memberi penghargaan kepada anak-anak

33. Kerap meleteri sesuatu kesilapan yang dilakukan anak-anak

34. Hukuman yang tidak setimpal dengan kesalahan yang dilakukan

35. Sering mengancam dan menakutkan anak-anak

36. Menghukum tanpa menyatakan kesalahan yang dilakukan

37. Tidak konsisten dalam menjatuhkan hukuman ke atas anak-anak

38. Memberi nasihat yang sama kepada anak-anak

39. Tidak tegas mendidik anak-anak

40. Tidak menggalakkan anak-anak hidup bekerjasama

Dipetik dari buku '40 kesilapan mendidik anak' oleh Dr. Hassan Ali

The Meaning of Hari Raya Aidiladha

Aidiladha is also commonly known as Hari Raya Korban or Hari Raya Haji in Malaysia.

Celebrated about two months after Hari Raya Aidilfitri, on the 10th day of Zulhijjah, the 12th (last) month of the Muslim calendar, it marks the end of the haj pilgrimage period (about two weeks).


Every year, millions of Muslims make the journey to Mecca in Saudi Arabia to perform the haj, one of the five basic tenets of Islam.

Aidiladha also commemorates the sacrifices made by the Prophet Ibrahim (hence the word 'korban,' which means sacrifice in Arabic), who demonstrated immense faith when he was put to the test by God.

Prophet Ibrahim was commanded to offer his son Ismail up for sacrifice, and though it grieved him greatly, he made ready to perform the task. However, as he was about to strike his son, God stopped him and revealed that it was a trial. Ismail's life was spared, and a ram was sacrificed in his place.

As such, during Aidiladha, the sacrifice of four-legged animals such as lambs, goats, cows, bulls and camels is performed.

The slaughter of the animal is done after the congregational prayer in the morning of Aidiladha.


One third of the meat is given to the individual who made the sacrifice, while the rest is given to the poor and deserving people in the community.
The animals are killed in accordance with the proper religious rites and the meat is then distributed.

Making the sacrifice (korban) is not a compulsory religious duty, but an obligations for those who are able to afford it.

The rest of the day is celebrated by visiting relatives and friends.

SELAMAT HARI RAYA AIDILADHA!

The Day when I read a novel & watched a movie called "The Devil Wears Prada"

Directed by David Frankel
Produced by Wendy Finerman
Written by Lauren Weisberger (novel)
Aline Brosh McKenna (screenplay)
Starring Meryl Streep
Anne Hathaway
Emily Blunt
Stanley Tucci
Adrian Grenier
Tracie Thoms
Music by Theodore Shapiro
Cinematography Florian Ballhaus
Editing by Mark Livolsi

Plot:

Andrea "Andy" Sachs, an aspiring journalist fresh out of Northwestern University, lands the magazine job "a million girls would kill for": junior personal assistant to icy editor-in-chief Miranda Priestly, who dominates the fashion world from her perch atop Runway magazine. She puts up with the eccentric and humiliating requests of her boss because, she is told, if she lasts a year in the position she will get her pick of other jobs, perhaps even the journalistic position she truly craves.

At first, she fits in poorly among the gossipy fashionistas who make up the magazine staff. Her lack of style or fashion knowledge and fumbling with her job make her an object of scorn around the office. Senior assistant Emily Charlton, her coworker, condescends to her. Gradually, though, with the help of art director Nigel, Andrea adjusts to the position and its many perks, including free designer clothing and other choice accessories. She begins to dress more stylishly and do her job competently, fulfilling a seemingly impossible request of Miranda's to get two copies of an unpublished Harry Potter manuscript to her daughters.

She also comes to prize chance encounters with attractive young writer Christian Thompson, who helped her obtain the Potter manuscript and suggests he could help her with her career. At the same time, however, her relationship with her boyfriend Nate, a chef working his way up the career ladder, and other college friends suffers due to the increasing time she spends at Miranda's beck and call.


Shortly afterwards, Andrea saves Miranda from social embarrassment at a charity benefit when the cold-stricken Emily falters in reminding Miranda who an approaching guest is. As a result, Miranda tells Andrea that she will accompany her to the fall fashion shows in Paris, rather than Emily who had been looking forward to the trip for months. Miranda warns Andrea that if she declines, it could adversely affect her future job prospects. Emily is hit by a car before Andrea can tell Emily the next morning, making her choice moot.

During a gallery exhibit of her friend Lilly's photography, Andy again encounters Christian, who openly flirts with her, much to the shock and disgust of Lilly, who witnesses it all. After Lilly calls her out and walks away, Andy bumps into Nate, who, when she tells him she will be going to Paris, is angered that she refuses to admit that she's become the girls she's made fun of and that their relationship has taken a back seat. As a result, they break up in the middle of the street the night before she leaves for Paris.


In Paris, Nigel tells Andrea that he has gotten a job as creative director with rising fashion star James Holt, at Miranda's recommendation, and will finally be in charge of his own life. She also finally succumbs to Christian's charms, and sees her boss let down her guard for the first time as she worries about the effect an impending divorce will have on her twin daughters.

But in the morning, Andrea finds out about a plan to replace Miranda as Runway editor with Jacqueline Follet, editor of the magazine's French edition, later that day. Despite the suffering she has endured at her boss's behest, she attempts to warn Miranda but is seemingly rebuffed each time.


At a luncheon later that day, however, Miranda announces that it is Jacqueline instead of Nigel who will leave Runway for Holt. Later, when the two are being driven to a show, she explains to a still-stunned Andrea that she was grateful for the warning but already knew of the plot to replace her and sacrificed Nigel to keep her own job. Pleased by this display of loyalty, she tells Andrea she sees some of herself in her. Andrea, repulsed, said she could never do to anyone what Miranda did to Nigel, primarily as Nigel mentored Andrea. Miranda replies that she already did, stepping over Emily when she agreed to go to Paris. If she wants to get ahead in her career, that's what she'll have to be willing to do.

Andrea gets out of the limo at the next stop, going not into the show with Miranda but out into the street, where instead of answering yet another call from her boss she throws her cell phone into a nearby fountain, leaving Miranda, Runway and fashion behind.

Later, back in New York, she meets Nate for breakfast. He has accepted an offer to work as a sous-chef in a popular Boston restaurant, and will be moving there shortly. Andrea is disappointed but her hope is rejuvenated when he says they could work something out, implying they will have a long-distance relationship in the future. At the film's conclusion, she has finally been offered a job as a newspaper reporter, greatly helped by a fax from Miranda herself who told the editor that Andrea was her "biggest disappointment ever", and if they didn't hire her they would be idiots. Andrea calls Emily and offers her all of the clothes that she got in Paris, which Andrea insists that she doesn't need anymore. Emily accepts and tells Andrea's replacement she has some big shoes to fill. In the last shot, Andrea, dressed as she was at the beginning of the film but with a bit more style, sees Miranda get into her car across the street. They exchange looks and Miranda gives no indication of a greeting, but gives a soft smile once inside the car, before sternly telling her chauffeur to "go!".

Differences between film and novel

Plot:-

In the novel, Andrea is forced into confronting Miranda at the climax when, back in New York, Lily is involved in a car accident, which leaves her comatose. Andrea's friends and family challenge her via phone calls to stand up for herself.[4] The conspiracy to remove Miranda as Runway editor, and everything associated with it, was written entirely for the film. Andrea ends her time with Miranda by telling her, very publicly, "Fuck you, Miranda. Fuck you."[5] instead of simply throwing her cell phone into a nearby fountain.


To set up the climax, details along the way were changed or added. Irv Ravitz, head of Elias-Clark, was given a far bigger part in the movie. The scene where Andrea succeeds where the sick Emily faltered at the benefit was adapted from a similar scene in the novel which did not involve Emily. Her inability to go to Paris in the novel is due to a bout of mononucleosis.[6] McKenna and Frankel decided to have her suffer the car accident instead of Lily to let Andrea out of a moral dilemma that could have made her less sympathetic in viewers' eyes.

Afterwards, the novel's Andrea sells her leftover clothing to a second-hand shop for $38,000 and finances her writer's life for the next year.[7] She, too, eventually returns to publishing when she sells a short story to Seventeen, and then returns to Elias-Clark to discuss freelance writing assignments with another of the company's magazines, The Buzz.

Ten ways to lose weight without hunger

By: Dr. John Briffa

"Eat fewer calories than you burn" has been the weight loss mantra for decades now. The problem is cutting back on food and taking more exercise almost inevitably makes people hungry, which can make positive changes quite unsustainable in the long term. In this article I offer some practical solutions to this by outlining several approaches that can help put the body in "caloric deficit" and promote weight loss without any need to go hungry.



FORGET ABOUT CALORIES

While there is an element of truth in the calorie principle, it neglects the fact that different types of calories are burned differently in the body. While fat is often singled out for attention in low calorie approaches, there is evidence that when calorie intakes are the same, individuals that eat most fat actually lose the most weight. Also, the effect that a food has on subsequent appetite will determine, ultimately, its influence on food intake and weight. The key to long-term weight loss is not to concentrate on the quantity of the food that you consume, but its quality.


EAT PROTEIN-RICH FOODS

Calorie for calori, protein has been found to satisfy the appetite more than either carbohydrate or fat. Protein-rich foods that are naturally appetite-sating and therefore, worth emphasizing in the diet include meat, fish, eggs, nuts and seeds.


EAT LOW GLYCEMIC INDEX (GI) FOODS

THE GI is a measure of the speed and extent to which foods release sugars into the bloodstream. The higher a food's GI, the less satisfying it tends to be. Of 20 studies published between 1977 and 1999, 16 showed that low GI foods promote the satisfaction derived from that meal and/or reduced subsequent hunger. Protein rich food have very low GIs, though other options include beans, lentils and most fruits and vegetables (other than potatoes).


EAT BREAKFAST

For many, eating breakfast helps to prevent over-eating later in the day. The phenomenon was studied formally in research published in the Journal of Nutrition. This study showed that those who had consumed the bulk of their food near the end of the day ate, on average, significantly more calories than individuals who ate more substantial amounts of food early on. So, to put a natural break on the appetite, make sure you don't skip breakfast.


GRAZE DON"T GORGE

If we get too hungry , it's difficult to control what and how much we eat. Eating between meals (maybe some fruit and a few nuts in the late morning or afternoon) can make us likelier to eat more healthily at meal times. Also, consistent eating has been found to be associated with lower levels of insulin, a hormone that can be cause weight gain in the body by stimulating the production of fat.


DON'T BUY IT

When none-too-healthy food is easily available to us, it can be difficult to resist. On the other hand, if it's not in the cupboard or fridge, we can't eat it. So don't buy it. Critical to achieving this with relative ease is to make sure that our food shopping, especially in a supermarket, is not done when we are hungry. So eat before you go shopping, rather than after.


CURB ALCOHOL INTAKE WITHOUT SACRIFICE

One way to reduce the intake of unwanted calories is by reducing alcohol intake. Some drinking may be driven by taste and the relaxing effects alcohol are perceived to have. However, what is less well recognised is that drinking can also be driven by plain thirst and hunger. Maintaining hydration during the day and not walking into a bar or restaurant very hungry can really help to curb alcohol intake without any sense of sacrifice.



USE SMALL PLATES

Adequate portions of food can easily get "lost" on big plates, so there can be a tendency to serve and eat more than is strictly necessary. Using smaller plates and bowls can help make it easier to eat just enough rather than too much.


CHEW YOUR FOOD

Eating more slowly helps ensure that food is more likely to register in the body and reduces the risk of eating more than is really required. Ideally, food should be thoroughly chewed before swallowing. It can also help not to touch our remaining food or our cutlery again until the food that has actually been put in the mouth has been thoroughly masticated and swallowed.


DISCOVER YOUR IDEAL DIET

Physiological studies show that different people metabolize specific foods with different levels or efficiency. For instance, some individuals are very good metabolizes of fat, while others run best on carbohydrates. Maintaining a healthy weight is, therefore partly about feeding the body with the foods it is better adapted to process. For more details on this and on how to discover your ideal diet, see http://www.thetrueyoudiet.com

Kewajipan Bagi Ketua Syarikat

Oleh : Ust Hj Zaharuddin Hj Abd Rahman

Setiap individu Muslim wajib mengetahui hukum Islam berkaitan kewajiban fardhu ain dan setiap ajaran yang mesti dipatuhi di dalam kehidupannya. Ia mestilah mengetahui peraturan Islam dalam menyucikan diri, solat (sembahyang) lima waktu dan sembahyang Jumaat. Bahkan ia wajib mempunyai ilmu berkenaan lima rukun Islam yang menjadi tonggak individu Muslim. Bagaimanapun, ia tidaklah dikehendaki untuk mempelajarinya secara amat terperinci yang mana ia adalah tugasan seorang ilmuan Islam yang khusus.

Sila rujuk

http://www.zaharuddin.net//

untuk lanjut.


Demikian juga perihalnya berkaitan zakat, bagaimanapun sebagai seorang Muslim ia perlu mempelajari selok belok bagi menunaikan zakat bagi harta yang diperolehinya. Sekiranya ia merupakan seorang usahawan, antara yang perlu mengetahui :-

a) Berkenaan kewajiban zakat perniagaannya,
b) Transaksi jual beli yang sah menurut Shariah,
c) Sensitiviti terhadap baranagan yang dijual atau di perbuat agar tidak membantu
kepada industri haram.
d) Pengetahuan berkaitan Riba dan perangkap-perangkapnya kerana isu Riba kerap timbul
apabila sebuah syarikat memerlukan wang modal bagi menjalankan perniagaannya,
iaitu apabila sesebuah syarikat mendapatkan modalnya melalui produk pinjaman
perniagaan dari Bank-bank Konvensional.
e) Kebajikan pekerja yang dijaga bertepatan kehendak Shariah.
f) Hadiah-hadiah yang di anugerah dan di terima dan kaitannya dengan rasuah.
g) Kemudahan yang disediakan oleh perbankan Islam untuk menjana kekuatan syarikatnya.
Ini amat perlu, agar ia tidak terjebak dalam kemelut Riba yang diharamkan.

Seluruh kepimpinan Muslim syarikat-syarikat perlu menyedari bahawa tiada lagi alasan "dharurat" atau "terpaksa" untuk mengambil apa jua produk kewangan konvensional, sambil mendakwa tiada produk Islam yang boleh digunakan. Ia adalah satu perkara yang amat penting bagi seseorang kepimpinan korporat muslim untuk memastikan seluruh transaksi perniagaannya, pelaburan, sumber kewangan dan kegunaannya adalah menurut landasan Shariah. Jika tidak, perniagaannya pasti akan ‘kering' dari berkat serta lahirlah kakitangan bermasalah yang tidak amanah yang membawa ke arah keruntuhan sesebuah organisasi.


Kepimpinan korporat dan syarikat perlu memahami bahawa tanggungjawab mereka bukan sahaja untuk mencipta kekayaan dan keuntungan semaksima mungkin buat syarikat dan diri sendiri, tetapi mereka juga bertanggung jawab memastikan ia menjaga tanggung jawab sosial dan etika terutamanya bagi para pekerja mereka. Nabi Muhammad SAW bersabda : "Tiada seorang hamba Allah yang dilantik menjadi pemimpin, kemudian ia tidak (menggunakan kedudukannya) menasihati dan membawa rakyatnya kepada kebaikan (dan Islam), kecuali Allah akan mengharamkan baginya Syurga" ( Riwayat Muslim)


Mereka perlulah memastikan semua pekerja mereka di berikan hak sewajarnya, terutamanya hak untuk menunaikan solat fardhu dan solat jumaat, surau perlu disediakan dengan baik. Selain itu, bagi sesetengah syarikat besar yang menawarkan kemudahan pinjaman kereta dan rumah buat para kakitangannya. Saya ingin menasihati pihak pengurusan bertanggung jawab memastikan semua pembiayaan rumah dan kereta itu dibuat secara Islam bagi setiap individu Muslim, terutamanya jika kakitangan itu sendiri menginginkan pembiayaan secara Islam.


Sekiranya, sesebuah syarikat itu telah pun menggunakan pinjaman secara konvensional, mereka masih lagi mempunyai jalan keluar iaitu dengan ‘refinance' atau membuat pembiayaan semula dengan Bank-bank Islam yang semakin banyak hari ini. Ketika ini, saya pasti, kebanyakkan bank Islam mampu menyediakan kemudahan penukaran produk konvensional ke cara Islam. Nabi Muhammad SAW bersabda : "Tinggalkan apa-apa yang kamu ragui kepada yang tidak di ragui" ( Riwayat At-Tirmidzi, An-Nawawi : Sohih)


Tiada sebarang alasan boleh digunakan untuk menjustifikasikan sikap ambil ringan kepimpinan syarikat yang tidak menawarkan pembiayaan secara Islam kepada kakitangan Islamnya. Sabda Nabi SAW : "Setiap kamu adalah penjaga dan bertanggung jawab atas ahli ( rakyat / pekerjanya) .." ( Riwayat Al-Bukhari & Muslim) . Justeru, perlu difahami bahawa Bank-bank Islam hari ini sentiasa bersedia untuk membantu mana-mana syarikat korporat besar dan kecil untuk menyelematkan atau menukar pinjaman perumahannya kepada pembiayaan perumahan Islam dan lain-lain. Malah mereka sentiasa bersedia membantu untuk memperbetulkan sesuatu model perniagaan sesebuah syarikat yang dijalankan secara tidak Islam kepada cara yang bertepatan dengan Shariah. Ia pasti membawa keselamatan bagi si pemimpin dan pekerjanya. InshaAllah.


Seorang ketua syarikat juga mesti mengetahui apa yang halal dan yang haram dalam urusan kerja pekerja-pekerjanya. Sebagai contoh, sebuah syarikat cetakan adalah ditegah oleh Shariah untuk menerbitkan sebarang majalah yang memaparkan gambar yang menaikkan syahwat lelaki dan menghampirkan kepada zina. Demikian juga, menerbitkan kisah-kisah fitnah, khurafat serta karut. Benar, walaupun ia membawa pulangan keuntungan yang banyak, tetapi ia hanyalah keuntungan sementara di dunia yang pasti membawa kecelakaan maksimum di akhirat.


Ketua syarikat juga perlu memahami untuk diri sendiri dan menasihati pekerjanya dalam hal keikhlasan dalam kerja, penjagaan waktu kerja yang sempurna, tuntutan bayaran yang benar, rasuah yang kerap berlaku, peratusan haram hasil anugerah kontrak kepada kontraktor pilihan dan banyak lagi. Kerap kali kita bertemu dengan pekerja yang sarapan paginya sehingga 30 minit kerana bersembang panjang. Mereka tidak sedar tindakan mereka melayakkan untuk tergolong dalam sebuah athar : "Setiap daging yang terbina dari harta yang haram, maka neraka adalah lebih layak untuknya"


Nabi SAW bersabda : " Sesungguhnya Allah menyukai seseorang hambanya yang apabila membuat sesuatu pekerjaan maka mereka sentiasa memperelokannya" (Riwayat Ibn Majah dan At-Tabrani- Hadith Hasan)

SELAMAT HARI RAYA AIDILFITRI

Tangan dihulur dan maaf dipinta
Menghapus dosa-dosa yang lalu..

MAAF ZAHIR DAN BATIN

Ikhlas dari kami sekeluarga

DNA Tests: Body found in bag is Nurin

PETALING JAYA, Sept 20 (Bernama) -- Police confirmed the DNA test on the body of a girl found stuffed in a sports bag at a shophouse in Petaling Jaya Utama on Monday is that of Nurin Jazlin Jazimin who was missing since a month ago.

Petaling Jaya OCPD ACP Arjunaidi Mohamed said blood tests on the body and Nurin's parents confirmed their blood ties.



He said Nurin's parents were informed of the DNA finding this affernoon.

Nurin Jazlin, 8, a Standard Two pupil of Sekolah Rendah Kebangsaan Desa Setapak, was reported missing on Aug 20 after going alone to a night market near her house at Section 1 in Wangsa Maju.

The body of a naked girl, believed to have been sexually abused, was found by a shophouse owner at Jalan PJS 1 on Monday morning.

In KUALA LUMPUR, Nurin's father, Jazimin Abdul Jalil, 33, refused to accept the DNA result that the girl's body was his daughter's.

"I am Nurin's father...I know my daughter better than anyone else. My heart is saying the body is not my daughter.

"If police ask me to take the body, I will accept, I will perform the funeral rites and bury it. But I want the police to pursue the search for Nurin because I know Nurin is still safe out there," the taxi driver told reporters outside the Kuala Lumpur Hospital mortuary.

Jazimin said he was sure the body was not his daughter's based on her teeth and the scar.

He said Nurin had no gaps in her teeth and had a scar on her thigh.

Jazimin said he was informed of the DNA test result at 12.30pm by the Petaling Jaya police who summoned him to the Kuala Lumpur Hospital mortuary to identify the body.

Jazimin and his wife, Norazian Bistaman, 35, who were called to the hospital for identification on Monday did not accept that the body was their daughter based on the physical condition of the girl's body.

A distraught Norazian told reporters she would accept the authorities' decision.

"What else can I say. The DNA test shows she is my daughter. I will accept the will of God.

"As a mother, I still hope the body is not my daughter's. No mother will accept the reality that her daughter was raped and killed brutally.

"Only God knows the extent of my sadness and grief," she said in tears.

Norazian said this year's Hari Raya Aidil Fitri celebrations would be the most joyous and meaningful in her life in the event Nurin was found safe and sound.

"In fact, we've already bought Nurin's Hari Raya dress and I will patiently wait for her return," she added.

ALFATIHAH

(articles taken from BERNAMA Online Thursday, 20 September 2007)

The Day when we watched "Kerana Cintaku Saerah"

Drama Kerana Cintaku Saerah ini diarahkan oleh Shahrulezad Mohameddin. Pengarah berbakat yang sedang melonjak naik ini juga turut menghasilkan skrip untuk drama ini. Sebuah skrip yang padat dengan mesej teladan, sarat dengan tragis yang menyentuh perasaan, diselitkan dengan lawak jenaka yang menghiburkan, santai, ringan dan tidak terlalu terikat dengan norma-norma skrip dari drama biasa.



Antara pelakon-pelakon yang membintangi drama ini ialah Benjy, Umie Aida, Noorkhiriah, Wan Maimunah, Isma Yusoof, Sharifah Shahora, Engku Faridah, Mubarak Majid, Ezani dan Amy Suraya.

Sinopsis Drama Kerana Cintaku Saerah
Falsafah cinta ada mengatakan, cinta tidak semestinya bersatu dan cinta itu boleh berubah dalam sekelip mata. Drama ini mengisahkan tentang seorang pemuda bernama Jibek (lakonan Benjy) yang mengalami penyakit di mana sel-sel dalam otaknya lemah dan kesannya Jibek menjadi lembab pemikiran di zaman remaja. Ketika zaman kanak-kanak, Jibek yang masih normal ketika itu menjalani kehidupan seperti kanak-kanak lain dan Jibek berkawan rapat dengan Saerah (lakonan Umie Aida). Mereka berjanji untuk mendirikan rumahtangga dan berkongsi hidup setelah dewasa. Namun, setelah Jibek mengalami penyakit otak, Saerah berubah fikiran dan cintanya bukan lagi buat Jibek. Namun, berlainan pada Jibek yang masih lagi berpegang pada janjinya untuk menjadikan Saerah sebagai isteri. Namun takdir menentukan segalanya.



Satu kejadian tragis menimpa Saerah di mana Saerah telah terlanjur melakukan penzinaan dengan seorang pemuda bernama Mustaza (lakonan Ezani). Menyedihkan lagi bagi Saerah kerana Mustaza tidak menyintainya dan meninggalkan Saerah yang menghamilkan anak luar nikah. Oleh kerana tidak mahu menanggung malu, ibu Saerah (Wan Maimunah) telah memaksa Saerah berkawin dengan Jibek. Atas dasar keterpaksaan, Jibek dan Saerah pun berkahwin dan melahirkan seorang anak hasil dari persetubuhan dengan Mustaza. Malang bagi Jibek apabila Saerah lari ke Kuala Lumpur tanpa pesan sejurus selepas habis pantang. Di Kuala Lumpur, Saerah berjaya mendapat pekerjaan dan lupa untuk pulang ke kampung melihat anak, suami dan ibunya.



Drama ini akan membawa penonton kepada kisah suka duka Jibek memelihara anaknya sehinggalah anaknya besar. Banyak laluan getir dan dugaan yang terpaksa dihadapi Jibek. Antaranya terpaksa menghadapi kerenah seorang pemuda jonggang yang samseng bernama Jenal (lakonan Isma Yusoof) dan ibunya, Cik Ros (lakonan Engku Faridah) yang suka membuat onar tanpa belas kasihan terhadap Jibek. Ibu Jibek banyak berhutang dengan Cik Ros dan Jibek tidak mampu membayar kesemua hutang tersebut. Kewujudan watak Nomi (lakonan Noorkhiriah) yang mengalami penyakit terencat akal menjadi kawan Jibek sejak kecil sehingga besar sedikit sebanyak memberi penawar pada Jibek. Mungkinkah akan ada cinta antara Nomi dan Jibek? Apakah yang akan berlaku pada Saerah ketika di Kuala Lumpur? Apakah yang akan menimpa Jenal dan ibunya Cik Ros? Untuk jawapan dan kesudahan drama ini, anda perlu tontonnya sendiri.

Saksikan drama Kerana Cintaku Saerah di TV3 mulai 5 September jam 10.30 malam!

Kenduri Kesyukuran Sempena Menyambut Kedatangan Ramadhan Al- Mubarak dan Berkhatan

MERDEKA! MERDEKA! MERDEKA!

Friday, 31st August 2007

First of all I would like to thanks to all my guest who did attending for the above function on that day. Thanks also to my fellow colleagues eventhough tak ramai yang datang due to cuti panjang tp Korang memang best sebab sudi spent time untuk sama-sama menjayakan Majlis ini. Thank you so much to all my family especially the Sudi's Family, My Mom and Sister, My Mom In Law and in-laws, Mak Long and Family, Acik Enab and Family, Mak Ngah and Family and the rest. It's really being a great pleasure from us (Husband & wife)coz u guys really helping us a lot. Kalau takde korang, Majlis ini takkan dapat dijayakan dengan jayanya. To Emak Bibah, your nasi and the rest of the food is superb (ramai yang puji).

The function start at 11.30 a.m. with all the orang-orang surau datang rumah untuk recite the doa. Overall function start at 2.30p.m. onwards with lots and lots of friends, families, neighbours coming to our kenduri (fuhh.....tiring). bak kata pepatah umpama mengahwinkan anakla, function kitaorang ni. I told my husband that in future if nak buat kenduri menyambut menantu biarlah i sewa wheel chair untuk welcome orang....tak sanggup aku, KAKI ku SAKITTTTT!!!!!!

Followed by the Marhabban Group (about 20 of them) my mom's friend from Gombak Setia membacakan tahlil untuk arwah, berzanji dan marhabban.

Luckily ada auntie2 and uncle2 tolong aku and husband untuk successkan this function. Aku berterima kasih dan bebesar hati sangat-sangat pada korang semua.

For those yang contribute dan bagi gift towards aku punya function, thank you so much semoga Tuhan membalas budi baik korang.

Sambutan daripada kawan-kawan, saudara-mara dan jiran-jiran amat memberangsangkan kerana lebih kurang 500 people datang ke Majlis kenduri Doa Selamat Kami. ALHAMDULLILLAH Syukur sangat-sangat.

Anak-anakku yang sebenarnya sudah bersunat dan dah recover pun happy coz all the cousins and friends came to our Kenduri. Rasanya both macam pengantin baru pulak, sebab this function is more towards both of them kan. Erm....Best aku tengok diaorang.

Our kenduri ends at 2000hrs (8.00p.m.) aduiii....PENATnya..tapi alhamdullillah once again everything's settled. Lepas nazar aku dan suamiku untuk membuat Majlis Doa Selamat untuk anak-anakku serta tahlil untuk Arwah Ayahku dan Arwah Ayah suamiku.

So next week we have to go back to Melaka pulak ada kenduri Tahlil Arwah Datuk & Nenek Suamiku. Erm...best jugak tu..boleh jugak makan2 sambil-sambil di Medan Ikan Bakar Umbai (nyam...nyam). I'm sure sebelum menjelangnya ramadhan i.e. Khamis, 13hb September 2007 ramai orang membuat kenduri tahlil serta doa selamat bagi menyambut kedatangannya.

For all Muslims di kesempatan ini kami sekeluarga ingin mengucapkan SELAMAT MENYAMBUT RAMADHAN AL-MUBARAK bersama-samalah kita menunaikannya. Insyaallah.

HAPPY 5TH BIRTHDAY AFIQ

Wednesday, 15th August 2007 @ 9.00p.m.


My Lovely and Cute Hero Muhammad Afiq Haikal has now turn to 5th years old. Happy Birthday !!!

The Day When My Two Boys become an Adults

Thursday, 16th August 2007 @ 5.15p.m.

It's the day when my two boys become an adults as both is having their 'bersunat' day on that day. Sedih dan terharu pun ada.... umpama macam nak mengahwinkan anak... Tak sangka my two babies akan menghadapi hari yang bersejarah iaitu Hari Bersunat mereka. Firt patient is my youngest baby i.e. Afiq, He was so happy before masuk bilik rawatan, maybe dia tak expect yang bersunat tu macam mana agaknya, Nasib baik jugak if not satu kerja pulak kitaorang nak kena pujuk dia dulu. Meanwhile, Amirul the 'Abang' is still waiting outside wondering 'kenapa adik dia lambat sangat kat dalam bilik tu' . After a while about 20 mins adik pun keluar with 'kain pelekat' time tu abang daripada happy nampak adik…terus dia 'stunt'terkejut sebab tengok adik punya muka merah and nak menangis. Time tu…. Dia step back and refuse to go in the room (aahhh..sudah…) macam mana pulak ni…tapi kitaorang (me & hubby) terpaksa consult him in away darah gemuruh dia boleh berhenti and lembut hati untuk pergi bersunat. At that time my hubby terus tarik dia and masuk ke bilik rawatan. Alhamdullillah........... my hubby said time buat tu tak sakit due to doctor bagi diaorang bius. First day of bersunat, I guess amat menyiksakan pada anak-anaku sebab diorang terpaksa berpantang seperti orang bersalin…..hehehehehe..kesian makan dan minum kena pantau…. For adik 3rd day tu dia dah boleh melompat walaupun tak berapa baik jahitan tu but he refuse to pakai kain pelekat…maybe dia serabut kot sebab tengok kain tu bergantung kat tengah rumah. Kalau aku pun risau + rimas + letih bila tengok kain tu kena ikat je dengan tali…so in return jahitan dia luka dia kurang baik…berdarah balik. But it's good for abang, he really take this opportunity to relax and time ni lah nak mengarah orang sana-sini ambilkan itu dan ini.. termasuk adik yang kena sunat pun kena kerah jugak buat kerja untuk dia. Hihiihihii….Jahitan dan luka abang bertambah baik. We have to go for a check up (dressing) on Sunday, 19th Aug 07 @ 6.00p.m. Adik is again being the first person yang pergi untuk buat dressing, memula tu dengar jugak dia menjerit sakit….due to luka dia tak baik lagi….best part pulak me bring abang sekali dalam bilik rawatan tu…aduss…dia sudah tengok adik dia menangis buka benang, right after that dia buat haru biru…tak mahu cuci and buka benang…….adusssss….tapi nak tak nak, both of us angkat dia..sambil dia jerit2 say no to doctor…hehehe…sambil tu kitaorang consult dia…bisinglah..satu clinic hari tu…ramai pulak patient kat luar time tu…semua gelak bila time kitaorang keluar bilik. tapi apa-apapun ALHAMDULLILAH..everything is ok. My two boys now dah jadi orang besar dah.

But for those parents out there kalau nak tahu some information on bersunat....kindly scroll down.

Bersunat atau khatan atau khitanan pada masa sekarang kurang dijalankan dengan mengadakan kenduri kendara secara besar-besaran seperti pada zaman dahulu. Walaubagaimanapun masih ada juga yang mengerjakannya dengan berkenduri kendara yang tidak kurang hebatnya. Apabila umur anak si ibu bapa Melayu telah masuk lebih kurang sepuluh atau dua belas tahun maka ibu bapa anak tersebut akan menetapkan hari untuk mereka mengadakan kenduri kendara menyunat anaknya itu. Lalu diberitahu atau dijemput dengan mulut atau dengan surat beberapa saudara-mara, sahabat-handai dan jiran-jiran sekampung. Sekiranya ingin mengadakan kenduri yang lebih besar maka dipanggillah ahli-ahli jemputan dengan lebih ramai lagi.

Bila sampai harinya, pada sebelah petang atau malamnya mulalah anak lelaki yang hendak disunat itu dimandikan, diandam dan dipakaikan dengan pakaian yang cantik seperti pakaian pengantin. Kemudian, anak lelaki yang ingin disunat itu dibawa duduk di atas kerusi dan ada juga yang membuat pelamin khas untuk budak itu duduk. Bahkan, ada juga yang suka mengarak budak itu seperti mengarak pengantin sebelum dia didudukkan di atas pelamin. Sesetengahnya pula jika budak yang hendak disunat itu telah khatam membaca Al-Quran maka disertakan pula adat menyunat itu dengan adat berkhatam Al-Quran, iaitu budak itu duduk bersila di atas tikar di belakang pelamin itu berhadapan dengan tetamu kehormat yang hadir dan membaca surah-surah penghabisan di dalam Al-Quran itu dengan suara yang kuat dan berlagu (jika dia telah dilatih mengaji dengan berlagu). Setelah selesai mengaji budak itu dipelawa duduk di atas pelamin dan bunga-bunga telur yang telah diperbuat khas dibahagikan kepada tetamu kehormat yang hadir seorang satu tangkai. Bagi guru yang mengajar budak itu, lazimnya si ibu bapa kepada anak yang ingin disunat itu akan menghadiahkan lengkap satu persalin pakaian. Pada akhir majlis itu budak itu disuruh mencium tangan dan bersalaman dengan tetamu-tetamu kehormat tersebut. Kemudiannya, jamuan pun diedarkan kepada sekalian yang hadir. Sesudah itu, majlis petang atau malam itu pun tamat. Pada pagi keesokan harinya, sebelum tok mudim (gelaran tukang sunat) tiba, beberapa benda untuk kegunaan tok mudim menyunat perlu disediakan seperti di bawah ini :-

• kain putih, panjang lima hasta.

• seekor ayam jantan.

• sebiji buyong air.

• sebatang pokok pisang.

• sirih pinang selengkapnya di dalam piring atau tepak.

• duit sebanyak RM3 atau lebih, bergantung seberapa banyak ibu bapa budak itu hendak sedekah kapada tok mudim itu.

Pada pagi itu, budak yang ingin disunat akan disuruh mandi sepuas-puasnya dan setelah itu air di dalam buyong yang telah dijampi oleh tok mudim akan dicedok dan disiram ke atas budak itu sambil budak itu berdiri di atas tangga. Kemudian budak itu disuruh duduk berkangkang di atas batang pisang, dan tok mudim itu pun dengan pantas menyunatkannya. Sehabis sahaja dicantasnya maka dengan cepat tok mudim itu mengambil ayam jantan dan diacukannya kepala ayam jantan itu kepada kemaluan budak itu. Jika tengkok ayam itu kelihatan kembang ketika diacu-acukan, menandakan kononnya budak itu garang dan akan berbini banyak.

Kain putih, ayam jantan, tepak dengan isinya, buyong dan duit sedekah itu semuanya terpulang kepada tok mudim itu untuk mengambilnya. Tok Mudim itu akan datang melihat keadaan budak yang disunatnya itu selama tiga hari berturut-turut, setelah itu selesailah kerjanya.

Namun begitu, kebanyakan masyarakat Melayu sekarang lebih gemar menghantar anak lelaki mereka bersunat di hospital atau di klinik yang diyakini jauh lebih mudah, cepat sembuh dan selamat oleh doktor yang berkemahiran.

Renungan Sempena 50 Tahun Kemerdekaan Malaysia

TATKALA kita dilaungkan yang Malaysia kini sudah 50 tahun mencapai kemerdekaan, kita seolah-olah lupa yang negara sebenarnya dijajah selama 446 tahun.

Nyata usia kemerdekaan negara masih terlalu `muda'
berbanding tempoh tanah watan kita dijajah.

Antara penjajah pertama yang menduduki bumi bertuah milik kita ialah Portugis apabila mereka menjajah Melaka pada 1511 dan mendudukinya selama 130 tahun.

Bermula daripada Portugis, tanah air kita dijajah pula oleh Belanda, British dan Jepun sebelum ia diserah kembali untuk ditadbir anak watan sebagai sebuah negara merdeka pada 31 Ogos 1957.

Sejarah panjang penjajahan negara ini bermula dengan berlabuhnya angkatan laut Portugis yang digelar `Benggali Putih' di Melaka pada 1509. Diketuai Lopez de Sequeira, angkatan laut Portugis dihantar Raja Portugal kononnya untuk menjalinkan hubungan persahabatan antara Kerajaan Portugal dan Kerajaan Melaka.

Bagaimanapun, terdapat niat lain di sebalik jalinan hubungan ditawarkan Portugis. Berbekalkan slogan `Gospel, Gold and Glory' (Injil, Emas dan
Kemasyhuran) , mereka mula belayar ke Timur seawal abad ke-15.

Kedatangan Portugis ke Timur dikaitkan dengan keinginan mereka meneruskan Perang Salib; mereka ingin menghancurkan Kerajaan Islam di Timur termasuklah Kerajaan Melaka yang terkenal sebagai Pusat Pengembangan Islam di Nusantara seterusnya menyebarkan ajaran Kristian.

Selain itu, pelayaran mereka ke Timur juga bertujuan mengaut kekayaan menerusi perdagangan rempah seperti lada hitam, kayu manis, bunga cengkih dan buah pala.

Sebelum itu, perdagangan rempah dimonopoli pedagang Islam yang mendapatkan bekalan di Melaka sebelum menjual pada harga tinggi di Eropah. Portugis berpendapat jika mereka berjaya menguasai Selat Melaka, mereka akan berjaya mengambil alih kekayaan itu daripada pedagang Islam.

Berikutan itu, dengan bermanis muka, Lopez de Sequeira masuk menghadap Sultan Melaka ketika itu, Sultan Mahmud Shah dan bagai menanam tebu di tepi bibir, lelaki Portugis terbabit mula menaburkan janji manis mengenai kebaikan jalinan hubungan antara kedua-dua kerajaan.

Tanpa menyedari niat serong di sebalik kata-kata Lopez de Sequeira, Sultan Mahmud Shah menyambut baik hasrat Portugis malah membenarkan mereka berniaga di Melaka.
Baginda juga memberi jaminan keselamatan sepanjang Portugis berniaga di situ.

Bagaimanapun, hasrat Portugis untuk menguasai perdagangan dan menentang Islam diketahui pedagang Islam dari Jawa dan Gujerat lalu mereka segera memaklumkan muslihat bangsa asing itu kepada Bendahara Tun Mutahir.

Bendahara Tun Mutahir pantas menyampaikan berita itu kepada Sultan dan menasihati baginda supaya menangkap orang Portugis termasuk pegawai kanan mereka, Ruy de Araujo.

Lopez de Sequeira yang ketakutan kerana menyedari tembelang mereka sudah pecah, bertindak melarikan diri ke pangkalan mereka di Goa, India sekali gus meninggalkan beberapa anak kapalnya ditangkap dan dibunuh tentera Melaka.

Tindak balas Melaka itu segera disampaikan kepada Raja Portugal dan pada 1510, satu angkatan laut diketuai Alfonso de Albuquerque dihantar untuk menyerang Kerajaan Melayu itu.

Sebaik tiba, Alfonso de Albuquerque menghantar utusan menuntut askar Portugis yang ditawan segera dibebaskan dan Melaka perlu membayar ganti rugi kepada mereka.
Wizurai Portugis itu juga meminta untuk mendirikan kubu di Melaka tetapi semua tuntutan itu ditolak dengan beraninya oleh Sultan Mahmud Shah.

Melihat tuntutannya tidak dilayan, ledakan meriam daripada kapal perang Portugis dilepaskan pada 25 Julai 1511 seterusnya bermulalah serangan pertama Portugis terhadap Melaka.

Soldadu perang Portugis segera mendarat di pantai Melaka dan peperangan hebat terus berlaku. Suatu ketika, askar Portugis berjaya menguasai jambatan Sungai Melaka tetapi pahlawan tempatan segera bangkit menentang.

Serangan balas diketuai Sultan Ahmad Shah menyebabkan angkatan Portugis terpaksa berundur.

Portugis kembali menyusun strategi dan melancarkan serangan kedua pada 10 Ogos 1511. Pertempuran hebat meletus lagi di bumi Melaka dan selepas dua minggu bertempur, akhirnya Alfonso de Albuquerque berjaya menawan dan menjajah Melaka.

Sultan Ahmad Shah dan ayahandanya, Sultan Mahmud Shah; pembesar, kerabat diraja serta beberapa rakyat terpaksa berundur ke Muar. Dari Muar, mereka berundur ke Pahang seterusnya Bentan.

Di Bentan, Sultan Mahmud Shah mendirikan kerajaan baru selepas kemangkatan anakandanya, Sultan Ahmad Shah.
Selepas penawanan Melaka, Sultan Mahmud Shah beberapa kali cuba merampas kembali negaranya daripada Portugis tetapi gagal.

Seterusnya pada 1511 kekal dalam ingatan kebanyakan kita - ia adalah tahun di mana Melaka yang menjadi simbol kegemilangan Kerajaan Melayu di Tanah Melayu atau mungkin mewakili tanah air kita, buat pertama kalinya dijajah bangsa asing.


Kelemahan pemerintahan Melaka punca dijajah PENJAJAHAN Melaka oleh Portugis pada 1511 turut berpunca daripada beberapa kelemahan negara itu sendiri.

Melaka yang dibuka pada 1400 oleh Parameswara atau Sultan Iskandar Shah mencapai kemuncak kegemilangannya sebagai sebuah kerajaan dan pusat perdagangan di zaman pemerintahan Sultan Mansor Shah iaitu dari 1458 hingga 1477.

Bagaimanapun, selepas kemangkatan Sultan Mansor Shah, zaman kegemilangan Melaka semakin menurun. Sultan Alauddin Riayat Shah yang menggantikan baginda, mati diracun pada 1488 seterusnya diganti Sultan Mahmud Shah.

Di bawah pemerintahan Sultan Mahmud Shah, beberapa masalah dalaman timbul dalam Kerajaan Melaka antaranya kelemahan pentadbiran, masalah perpaduan, kelemahan ketenteraan sehingga akhirnya, kedatangan dan serangan Portugis menyebabkan Melaka akhirnya dijajah.

Kelemahan dalam pentadbiran kerajaan berlaku apabila Bendahara Tun Perak meninggal dunia pada 1498 dan jawatannya diganti Bendahara Tun Mutahir yang bersikap pilih kasih sehingga mencetuskan iri hati di kalangan pembesar lain.

Sikap pilih kasih itu juga menyebabkan Tun Mutahir difitnah yang beliau cuba mengatasi kekayaan Sultan menyebabkan Sultan Mahmud Shah amat murka. Tanpa usul periksa, baginda menjatuhkan hukuman bunuh kepada Tun Mutahir dan keluarganya.

Selepas kematian Tun Mutahir, barulah Sultan Mahmud Shah menyedari kesilapannya. Dalam kekesalahn, baginda menyerahkan tampuk kepimpinan kepada anakandanya, Sultan Ahmad Shah tetapi pengganti baginda adalah seorang pemerintah yang tidak cekap dan lemah.

Pengganti Bendahara Tun Mutahir iaitu Tun Pepatih Putih adalah seorang yang uzur menyebabkan kewibawaan pentadbiran Melaka menjadi semakin lemah. Masalah dalaman semakin menjadi-jadi dengan amalan rasuah dan fitnah berleluasa.

Cukai kepada pedagang pula semakin tinggi menyebabkan pedagang mula beralih untuk berniaga di pelabuhan lain yang mengenakan cukai lebih rendah seperti Acheh, Bantam, Patani dan Brunei.

Masalah perpaduan di kalangan penduduk Melaka timbul apabila Tun Mutahir dilantik sebagai bendahara menggantikan Tun Perak. Pelantikan Tun Mutahir menimbulkan persaingan antara Orang Melayu dengan India-Muslim dan kemuncak masalah adalah pembunuhan Tun Mutahir akibat fitnah.

Kesan masalah itu turut merebak kepada rakyat jelata di mana masyarakat Melaka semakin berpecah-belah dan tidak bersatu padu. Keadaan itu turut menjejaskan perdagangan di Melaka.

Kelemahan askar Melaka yang hanya menggunakan senjata tradisional seperti keris, panah, sumpit beracun, perisai dan tombak turut menjadi punca kekalahan dan penjajahan Melaka oleh Portugis.

Walaupun ada antara tentera Melaka menggunakan senapang dan meriam, senjata api milik Portugis ternyata lebih hebat malah meriam mereka mampu menembak ke sasaran yang lebih jauh.

Struktur dan strategi ketenteraan Portugis juga nyata lebih lengkap dan terlatih berbanding tentera Melaka.
Portugis mendapat sokongan dari pangkalan tentera mereka di Goa semasa melancarkan peperangan sebaliknya askar upahan Melaka dari Jawa bertindak melarikan diri semasa serangan Portugis.

Semua kelemahan itu menyebabkan Melaka akhirnya berjaya dijajah Portugis dan seharusnya ia menjadi iktibar kepada kita pada hari ini, semoga sempena kemerdekaan negara yang ke-50, sejarah hitam penjajahan itu tidak akan berulang.

FAKTA:
Pemerintahan Portugis

1511: Alfonso de Albuquerque tiba di Melaka pada 10 Ogos dan membuat permintaan membina kubu Portugis di Melaka tetapi permintaannya ditolak Sultan. Selepas 10 hari mengepung, Portugis berjaya menawan Kota Melaka pada 24 Ogos dan membina A Famosa dalam tempoh enam bulan. Dengan tewasnya Sultan Mahmud Shah, Portugis memerintah Melaka selama 130 tahun.

1513: Patih Unus dari Jawa, seorang pahlawan Jawa yang menjadi Sultan Demak di Sumatera menyerang Kerajaan Portugis di Melaka.

1518-1519: Sultan Mahmud Shah mengerah rakyatnya membina tembok tinggi mengelilingi Melaka dalam masa tiga bulan dalam usaha menawan kembali negara itu.

1521: Gereja St Paul dibina Kapten Portugis, Duarte Coelho dan dinamakan `Our Lady of The Hill', tetapi kemudian ditukar Belanda kepada tempat persemadian bangsawan dan dinamakan Gereja St Paul.

1523: Sultan Mahmud gagal sekali lagi dalam penawanan Melaka.

1525: Laksamana Hang Nadim mengepung Kota A Famosa.
Portugis membuat catuan makanan dari Goa.

1526: Seangkatan kapal besar di bawah Pedro Mascarenhaas dihantar Portugal untuk memusnahkan bandar Bentan yang melindungi Sultan Mahmud Shah.
Sultan Mahmud terpaksa melarikan diri melintasi Selat Melaka ke Kampar, Sumatera.

1528: Sultan Mahmud Shah mangkat di Kampar, Sumatera.

1537: Acheh menyerang Portugis di Melaka pada kali pertama.

1545: Buat pertama kalinya, Fr Francis Xavier tiba di Melaka. Pada keseluruhannya, beliau membuat lima lawatan ke Melaka kerana hendak menjadikan Melaka sebagai pusat operasinya di Timur.

1548: Kolej St Paul, sekolah pertama di Melaka, dibina St Francis Xavier untuk orang Katolik Portugis dan orang tempatan yang murtad memeluk Kristian.

1551: Gabungan Johor, Japara dan Perak menawan Melaka dan mengepungnya selama tiga bulan.

1568: Johor membantu Portugis Melaka mematahkan serangan Acheh. Acheh mengawal Selat Melaka selama 60 tahun.

1582: Portugis membantu Johor daripada serangan Acheh dan Sultan Abdul Jalil Riayat Shah menjadi Sultan Johor pertama yang melawat Melaka.

1587: Johor menyerang Portugis secara besar-besaran melalui serangan darat dan laut tetapi gagal.

1597: Belanda membuat serangan pertama ke atas Kota Portugis Melaka.

1606: Belanda di bawah Laksamana Matelieff de Jonge bekerjasama dengan Sultan Johor untuk menguasai Melaka. Percubaan selama tiga bulan gagal apabila Portugis mendapat bantuan dari Goa.

1615-1616: Acheh menyerang Melaka.

1628-1629: Acheh memerintah Melaka selama lapan bulan sebelum Portugis kembali mengambil Melaka.

1636: Kapal Belanda memusnahkan kapal Portugis di pelabuhan.

1641: Belanda menewaskan Portugis pada 14 Januari dan menakluk Melaka dengan bantuan Sultan Johor


“Sesungguhnya, segala kejayaan yang dicapai Hari ini ditunjangi oleh usaha Dan pengorbanan pejuang-pejuang Kita yang terdahulu”.

SELAMAT MENYAMBUT HARI KEMERDEKAAN YANG KE – 50

Notes on a Scandal (2006)

Studio/Distributor
Fox Searchlight Pictures

Director
Richard Eyre


Screenwriter(s)
Patrick Marber

Cast
Judi Dench, Cate Blanchett, Bill Nighy, Andrew Simpson, Phil Davis, Michael Maloney, Juno Temple, Max Lewis

Release Date: December 25, 2006

Synopsis:

Barbara Covett is a veteran and cynical schoolteacher who is close to retirement. She is barely tolerated by her less brilliant and acerbic colleagues who know nothing about her private life which consists mainly of taking care of Portia, her aging cat, and spending countless hours alone. The only means she has found to take the edge off her desperate loneliness is writing in her journal. When Sheba Hart, a younger, attractive woman, joins the faculty as an art teacher, Barbara watches her from afar and has nothing but caustic things to say in her diary about her clothing and her care-free manner. Despite her disdain for this woman, Barbara finds herself reaching out to her. Sheba responds by inviting her to dinner at her house to meet Sheba's lecturer husband, who is twenty years her senior, and their two children, a sexy and rebellious 16-year-old daughter and a younger boy with Downs Syndrome. Instead of opening herself to these people, Barbara immediately sees them as competition to be beaten in the battle for Sheba's attention. Later, when Barbara discovers her new friend in a classroom having sex with Steven, a 15-year-old from the school who has artistic talent; she realizes that knowledge of this secret gives her power over Sheba which she can use for her own purposes. Barbara promises to not tell anyone but insists that the affair must end immediately. Sheba says she will but finds herself drawn back to the boy again and again. Sheba seems uneasy with Barbara's friendship and is appalled when she discovers the older woman might have a sexual interest in her. The tenuous relationship between the two women reaches a crisis point when Barbara's cat is dying and she asks Sheba to go with her to the vet. She chooses to go with her family to see their son in a play instead. In revenge, Barbara sets in motion the scandal that will rock both their lives in ways they never imagined. Written by alfiehitchie

YAWNING COOLS THE BLOOD TO REFRESH YOUR BRAIN

Over the years, there have been many theories for why people yawn. It has been associated with sleepiness and boredom, and, incorrectly, with low oxygen levels in the blood.

"No one knows why we yawn," says Andrew C. Gallup, a psychology professor at the State University of New York at Albany.

Now Dr. Gallup and fellow researchers have a new explanation: yawning, they said, is a way for the body to cool the brain.

The volunteers were asked to step into a room by themselves and watch a video showing people behaving neutrally, laughing or yawning.

Some volunteers were asked to breathe only through their noses as they watched. Later, volunteers were asked to press warm or cold packs on their foreheads.

"The two conditions thought to promote brain cooling (nasal breathing and forehead cooling) practically eliminated contagious yawning," the researchers wrote.

The study may also help explain why yawning spreads from person to person. A cooler brain, Dr. Gallup said, is a clearer brain.

So yawning actually appears to be a way to stay more alert. And contagious yawning, he said, may have evolved to help groups remain vigilant against danger.

THE MOST TOP TEN IN THE WURL

The day when I & Family watched Transformers

Click here for movie trailer http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zZp75fWe-ss


Director: Michael Bay
Writer: Roberto Orci, Alex Kurtzman
Starring: Shia LaBeouf, Megan Fox, Josh Duhamel, Jon Voight, Bernie Mac, Tyrese
Gibson, Rachael Taylor, Amaury Nolasco, Kevin Dunn, Ronnie Sperling
Official Site: webmaster.transformersmovie.com

Synopsis:

For centuries, two races of robotic aliens–the Autobots and the Decepticons–have waged a war, with the fate of the universe at stake. When the battle comes to Earth, all that stands between the evil Decepticons and ultimate power is a clue held by young Sam Witwicky (Shia LaBeouf).


An average teenager, Sam is consumed with everyday worries about school, friends, cars and girls. Unaware that he alone is mankind’s last chance for survival, Sam and his friend Mikaela (Megan Fox) find themselves in a tug of war between the Autobots and Decepticons. With the world hanging in the balance, Sam comes to realize the true meaning behind the Witwicky family motto–“No sacrifice, no victory!”

St. Marians Gathering 020707

ARE YOU ST. MARIANS?? if not kindly ignore this message as this message is only meant for x-ST. MARIANS ONLY

From:



ira mastika


Date: Wednesday, 20 June, 2007 2:55 PM
Subject: gathering


Message:
Pls be inform that we going to have a small gathering on 2.7.07 at redbox sogo around 12 o'clock. Pls inform me if u would like to joint by sms 019-2345848 or email at ashadeera@yahoo.com before 27.06.07.Your cooperation is appreciated very much by me lor..who else. So come n joint this gathering to meet ur old friend but not too old for our age...heheee


best regards,
ira

p/s : Pls foward this msg to all the st marians from our badge only in your list.Coz this is 1st time try to organise so paham2 ler kalu ramai sgt ye. tq

Happy Girlfriend Day

God did not intend for us to be all rich, beautiful, or great alone; but He does intend for us all to be friends.

HAPPY GIRLFRIEND'S DAY! If you get this more than once -
you are blessed with friends.


Happy Girlfriend's Day!

Good times are even better when they're shared.


A good long talk can cure almost anything.

Everyone needs someone with whom to share her secrets.


Listening is just as important as talking.


An understanding friend is better than a therapist;
And cheaper too!


Laughter makes the world a happier place.

Friends are like wine; they get better with age.



Sometimes you just need a shoulder to cry on.

Great minds think alike, especially when they are female!





When it comes to "bonding," females do it better.



YO U ARE NEVER TOO OLD FOR SLUMBER PARTIES!!!!

It's important to make time to do "girl things."


Calories don't count when you are
having lunch with your girlfriends.




GEMS MAY BE PRECIOUS,
BUT FRIENDSHIP IS PRICELESS!!!!!



Thank You

HAPPY 6th BIRTHDAY AMIRUL

Time flies by and my lovely son has turn to 6 years old now, actually his birthday is on the 25th May hari tu but disebabkan masalah teknikal yang tidak dapat dielakkan serta ke"bz"ianku & hubby yang ditahap kritikal...so in return lambatlah sikit nak post this story. Tapi hopefully 'abang' tak marah mama kan? Apa-apa pun mama, ayah & adik will lurve you alwiz forever and eva.

We did his birthday celebration at my mom's house @ Lembah Keramat on Saturday, 19th May 2007. Saja je buat awal2 due to ramai sangat cousins & frens kahwin towards the following weekend, so hubby decided to prepare the birthday bash on the day itself spontaneously due to my sister dah beli cake specially upon his request, coz previously dia ada mintak kat my sister nak birthday cake spiderman...so tak sangka pulak my sister sanggup tempah cake untuk dia...and the cake pun besar...tak habis makan kalau kitaorang 6 beranak.

Planning awalnya nak pergi wedding my fren kat Selayang tapi terpaksa dibatalkan niat tu due to my mom dah excited sangat nak buat birtday party untuk cucu kesayangan dia...siap suruh both of us beli barang-barang untuk dia masak. So kami (husband & wife) nak tak nak ikut jelah kehendak my mom...aktiviti membeli-belah start at 8.30 as we're heading to TESCO Jalan Ampang beli groceries. Beli punya beli tak sedar jam dah ke pukul 11.30 pagi...jemputan is at 2.30p.m. onwards...gelabah jugaklah nak masak2 nak kasi ontime...takut jemputan datang, makanan takde lagi...NAYA!

Menu petang tu biasa aje....my mom masak meehoon goreng, ayam goreng (marinate), nugget, curry puff, kuih-muih, ice-cream dsb. (tak ingatlah).

Ramai jugaklah yang datang....tetamu datang until pukul 9.00p.m..itupun kitaorang main jemput last minute je...termasuklah neighbour2 terdekat and my frens (mana done je).

Fun jugak especially my two boys...diaorang enjoy sangat..specially bila tang orang kasi hadiah...heppi sungguh..adik yang belum birthday pun dapat gak...erm...UNTUNG.

Penat nya tak usah cerita....memang sakit pinggang jugaklah..walaupun rasa macam buat kecil-kecilan ....but still rezeki anak-anak.....tetamu yang datang boleh tahan jugak walaupun memula tu ingat takde orang yang akan datang tapi ALHAMDULLILLAH.....syukur.

That night semua orang tidur tak sedar diri sebab kepenatan especially kitaorang 4 beranak...sebab esoknya pulak nak pergi kenduri doa selamat & berkhatan on my husband's side at Gombak......perghh!!! TIRING!

Tapi apa-apa pun....HAPPY BIRTHDAY MUHAMMAD AMIRUL HAIKAL.......

The best moment in life

The Best Moments In Life

1. Falling in love.
2. Laughing till your stomach hurts.
3. Enjoying a ride down the country side.
4. Listening to your favorite song on the radio.
5. Going to sleep listening to the rain pouring outside.
6. Getting out of the shower and wrapping yourself with a warm,fuzzy towel.
7. Passing your final exams with good grades.
8. Being part of an interesting conversation.
9. Finding some money in some old pants.
10.Laughing at yourself.
11.Sharing a wonderful dinner with all your friends.
12.Laughing without a reason.
13."Accidentally" hearing someone say something good about you.
14.Watching the sunset.
15.Listening to a song that reminds you of an important person in your life.
16.Receiving or giving your first kiss.
17.Feeling this movement in your body when seeing this "special" someone.
18. Having a great time with your friends.
19. Seeing the one you love happy.
20. Wearing the shirt of a person you love and smelling his/her perfume.
21. Visiting an old friend of yours and remembering great memories.
22. Hearing some telling you "I LOVE YOU"

"True friends come in the good times when we tell them to, and the bad times.....without calling."

The Day when I & Family watched Hannibal Rising

In Eastern Europe at the end of World War II, a young Hannibal watches as his parents violently die, leaving his young sister in his care. Alone and without any means of support, he is forced to live in a Soviet orphanage. He flees to Paris to find his uncle has died but his Japanese widow, Lady Murasaki (Gong Li) welcomes him. Even her kindness and love cannot soothe the nightmares and sorrows that plague him. Showing a cunning aptitude for science he is accepted into medical school, which serves to hone his skills and provide the tools to exact justice on the war criminals that haunt him day and night. This quest will ignite an insatiable lust within a serial killer who was not born, but made.

Genres: Suspense/Horror, Thriller, Adaptation and Sequel
Running Time: 117 min.
Release Date: February 9th, 2007 (wide)
Starring: Gong Li, Gaspard Ulliel, Ivan Marevich, Aaron Thomas (II), Rhys Ifans
Directed by: Peter Webber, Michel Pascal (II)
Produced by: James Clayton (II), Duncan Reid, Dino de Laurentiis

The Day when I & Family Watched Spiderman 3

Peter Parker has finally managed to strike a balance between his devotion to M.J. and his duties as a superhero. But there is a storm brewing on the horizon. When his suit suddenly changes, turning jet-black and enhancing his powers, it transforms Peter as well, bringing out the dark, vengeful side of his personality that he is struggling to control. Under the influence of the suit, Peter becomes overconfident and starts to neglect the people who care for him most. Forced to choose between the seductive power of the new suit and the compassionate hero he used to be, Peter must overcome his personal demons as two of the most-feared villains yet, Sandman and Venom, gather unparalleled power and a thirst for retribution to threaten Peter and everyone he loves.


Language: English
Classification: U
Running Time: 2 hour 20 minutes
Director: Sam Raimi
Cast: Tobey Maguire, Kirsten Dunst, Thomas Haden Church, Topher Grace,
James Franco.

Friendship

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Motivational Quotes (Part 2)

IGNORANCE AND STUPIDITY QUOTES


"I wash my hands of those who imagine chattering to be knowledge, silence to be ignorance, and affection to be art."
--Kahlil Gibran [More Quotes from Kahlil Gibran]

"There is nothing more frightful than ignorance in action."
--Johann Von Goethe [More Quotes from Johann Von Goethe]

"Half the world is composed of idiots, the other half of people clever enough to take indecent advantage of them."
--Walter Kerr [More Quotes from Walter Kerr]

"Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and consciencious stupidity."
--Martin Luther King Jr. [More Quotes from Martin Luther King Jr.]

"Men are born ignorant, not stupid. They are made stupid by education."
--Bertrand Russell [More Quotes from Bertrand Russell]


POPULARITY QUOTES

"Popular opinion is the greatest lie in the world."
--Thomas Carlyle [More Quotes from Thomas Carlyle]

"Applause waits on success."
--Benjamin Franklin [More Quotes from Benjamin Franklin]

"Popularity is glory's small change."
--Victor Hugo [More Quotes from Victor Hugo]

"To his dog, every man is Napoleon; hence the constant popularity of dogs."
--Aldous Huxley [More Quotes from Aldous Huxley]

"Seek not the favor of the multitude; it is seldom got by honest and lawful means. But seek the testimony of the few; and number not voices, but weigh them."
--Immanuel Kant [More Quotes from Immanuel Kant]

"Avoid popularity if you would have peace."
--Abraham Lincoln [More Quotes from Abraham Lincoln]

"Whatever is popular deserves attention."
--James Mackintosh [More Quotes from James Mackintosh]

"True popularity is not the popularity which is followed after, but the popularity which follows after."
--Lord Mansfield [More Quotes from Lord Mansfield]

"Popularity is exhausting. The life of the party almost always winds up in a corner with an overcoat over him."
--Wilson Mizner [More Quotes from Wilson Mizner]

"Avoid popularity; it has many snares, and no real benefit."
--William Penn [More Quotes from William Penn]


ATTITUDES QUOTES

"I'd rather be a could-be if I cannot be an are;
because a could-be is a maybe who is reaching for a star.
I'd rather be a has-been than a might-have-been, by far;
for a might have-been has never been, but a has was once an are."
--Milton Berle [More Quotes from Milton Berle]

"In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer."
--Albert Camus [More Quotes from Albert Camus]

"The tears that you spill, the sorrowful, are sweeter than the laughter of snobs and the guffaws of scoffers."
--Kahlil Gibran [More Quotes from Kahlil Gibran]

"Zeal is a volcano, the peak of which the grass of indecisiveness does not grow."
--Kahlil Gibran [More Quotes from Kahlil Gibran]

"An inexhaustible good nature is one of the most precious gifts of heaven, spreading itself like oil over the troubled sea of thought, and keeping the mind smooth and equable in the roughest weather."
--Washington Irving [More Quotes from Washington Irving]

"No pessimist ever discovered the secret of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new doorway for the human spirit."
--Helen Keller [More Quotes from Helen Keller]

"A will finds a way."
--Orison Swett Marden [More Quotes from Orison Swett Marden]

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
--Reinhold Niebuhr [More Quotes from Reinhold Niebuhr]

"She would rather light candles than curse the darkness and her glow has warmed the world."
--Adlai E. Stevenson [More Quotes from Adlai E. Stevenson]

"Every exit is an entry somewhere."
--Tom Stoppard [More Quotes from Tom Stoppard]

"The cynic knows the price of everything and the value of nothing."
--Oscar Wilde [More Quotes from Oscar Wilde]


Marriage Quotes


"Marriage is that relation between man and woman in which the independence is equal, the dependence mutual, and the obligation reciprocal."
--Louis K. Anspacher [More Quotes from Louis K. Anspacher]

"Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up."
--Joseph Barth [More Quotes from Joseph Barth]

"Well-married, a man is winged: ill-matched, he is shackled."
--Henry Ward Beecher [More Quotes from Henry Ward Beecher]

"The difficulty with marriage is that we fall in love with a personality, but must live with a character."
--Peter Devries [More Quotes from Peter Devries]

"I have always thought that every woman should marry, and no man."
--Benjamin Disraeli [More Quotes from Benjamin Disraeli]

"Men marry to make an end; women to make a beginning."
--Alexis Dupuy [More Quotes from Alexis Dupuy]

"Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage."
--Benjamin Franklin [More Quotes from Benjamin Franklin]

"Marriage is the torment of one, the felicity of two, the strife and enmity of three."
--Washington Irving [More Quotes from Washington Irving]

"A successful marriage is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day."
--Andr Maurois [More Quotes from Andr Maurois]

"I guess the only way to stop divorce is to stop marriage."
--Will Rogers [More Quotes from Will Rogers]

"It takes two to make a marriage a success and only one to make it a failure."
--Herbert Samuel [More Quotes from Herbert Samuel]

"Marriage resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they cannot be separated; often moving in opposite directions, yet always punishing any one who comes between them."
--Sydney Smith [More Quotes from Sydney Smith]

"God help the man who won't marry until he finds a perfect woman, and God help him still more if he finds her."
--Benjamin Tillett [More Quotes from Benjamin Tillett]

"The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds--they mature slowly."
--Peter De Vries [More Quotes from Peter De Vries]

"Men marry because they are tired; women because they are curious. Both are disappointed."
--Oscar Wilde [More Quotes from Oscar Wilde]


PARENTS QUOTES


"The joys of parents are secret, and so are their griefs and fears."
--Francis Bacon [More Quotes from Francis Bacon]

"We never know the love of the parent till we become parents ourselves."
--Henry Ward Beecher [More Quotes from Henry Ward Beecher]

"The first half of our lives is ruined by our parents and the second half by our children."
--Clarence Darrow [More Quotes from Clarence Darrow]

"How many hopes and fears, how many ardent wishes and anxious apprehensions are twisted together in the threads that connect the parent with the child!"
--Samuel Griswold Goodrich [More Quotes from Samuel Griswold Goodrich]

"The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother."
--Theodore M. Hesburgh [More Quotes from Theodore M. Hesburgh]

"Children aren't happy with nothing to ignore,And that's what parents were created for."
--Ogden Nash [More Quotes from Ogden Nash]

"There are times when parenthood seems nothing more than feeding the hand that bites you."
--Peter De Vries [More Quotes from Peter De Vries]



FLATTERY QUOTES



"It is better to fall among crows than flatterers; for those devour only the dead--these the living."
--Antisthenes [More Quotes from Antisthenes]

"Flattery is like cologne water, to be smelt of, not swallowed."
--Josh Billings [More Quotes from Josh Billings]

"The best way to convince a fool that he is wrong is to let him have his own way."
--Josh Billings [More Quotes from Josh Billings]

"Flattery is from the teeth out. Sincere appreciation is from the heart out."
--Dale Carnegie [More Quotes from Dale Carnegie]

"Young men think old men are fools, but old men know young men are fools."
--George Chapman [More Quotes from George Chapman]

"Nobody can describe a fool to the life, without much patient self-inspection."
--Frank Moore Colby [More Quotes from Frank Moore Colby]

"Fools grow without watering."
--Thomas Fuller [More Quotes from Thomas Fuller]

"Just praise is only a debt, but flattery is a present."
--Samuel Johnson [More Quotes from Samuel Johnson]

"Knavery and flattery are blood relations."
--Abraham Lincoln [More Quotes from Abraham Lincoln]

"Avoid flatterers, for they are thieves in disguise."
--William Penn [More Quotes from William Penn]

"What the fool does in the end, the wise man does in the beginning."
--Proverb [More Quotes from Proverb]

"It is easy to flatter; it is harder to praise."
--Jean Paul Richter [More Quotes from Jean Paul Richter]

"Flattery is a kind of bad money, to which our vanity gives us currency."
--Franois De La Rochefoucauld [More Quotes from Franois De La Rochefoucauld]

"No fools are so troublesome as those who have some wit."
--Franois De La Rochefoucauld [More Quotes from Franois De La Rochefoucauld]

"Always let your flattery be seen through for what really flatters a man is that you think him worth flattering."
--George Bernard Shaw [More Quotes from George Bernard Shaw]

"None are more taken in with flattery than the proud, who wish to be the first and are not."
--Benedict Spinoza [More Quotes from Benedict Spinoza]

"A fool can no more see his own folly than he can see his ears."
--William Makepeace Thackeray [More Quotes from William Makepeace Thackeray]

"Let us be thankful for the fools; but for them the rest of us could not succeed."
--Mark Twain [More Quotes from Mark Twain]



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PERSONALITY QUOTES


"If you have anything really valuable to contribute to the world it will come through the expression of your own personality, that single spark of divinity that sets you off and makes you different from every other living creature."
--Bruce Barton [More Quotes from Bruce Barton]

"A man should not strive to eliminate his complexes but to get into accord with them: they are legitimately what directs his conduct in the world."
--Sigmund Freud [More Quotes from Sigmund Freud]

"Man's main task in life is to give birth to himself, to become what he potentially is. The most important product of his effort is his own personality."
--Erich Fromm [More Quotes from Erich Fromm]

"Every man is born as many men and dies as a single one."
--Martin Heidegger [More Quotes from Martin Heidegger]

"It is by no means certain that our individual personality is the single inhabitant of these our corporeal frames... We all do things both awake and asleep which surprise us. Perhaps we have cotenants in this house we live in."
--Oliver Wendell Holmes [More Quotes from Oliver Wendell Holmes]

"A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination."
--Nelson Mandela [More Quotes from Nelson Mandela]

"Some persons are likeable in spite of their unswerving integrity."
--Don Marquis [More Quotes from Don Marquis]

"Personality is to a man what perfume is to a flower."
--Charles M. Schwab [More Quotes from Charles M. Schwab]

"Everyone is a moon, and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody."
--Mark Twain [More Quotes from Mark Twain]

"Personality is born out of pain. It is the fire shut up in the flint."
--J. B. Yeats [More Quotes from J. B. Yeats]


PUNCTUALITY QUOTES



"I could never think well of a man's intellectual or moral character, if he was habitually unfaithful to his appointments."
--Nathaniel Emmons [More Quotes from Nathaniel Emmons]

"Unfaithfulness in the keeping of an appointment is an act of clear dishonesty. You may as well borrow a person's money as his time."
--Horace Mann [More Quotes from Horace Mann]

"Punctuality is one of the cardinal business virtues: always insist on it in your subordinates."
--Don Marquis [More Quotes from Don Marquis]

"If you're there before it's over, you're on time."
--James J. Walker [More Quotes from James J. Walker]


JEALOUSY QUOTES


"Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening."
--Maya Angelou [More Quotes from Maya Angelou]

"Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment."
--Anonymous [More Quotes from Anonymous]

"Jealousy is ... a tiger that tears not only its prey but also its own raging heart."
--Michael Beer [More Quotes from Michael Beer]

"Yet he was jealous, though he did not show it,For jealousy dislikes the world to know it."
--Lord Byron [More Quotes from Lord Byron]

"The jealous bring down the curse they fear upon their own heads."
--Dorothy Dix [More Quotes from Dorothy Dix]

"Jealousy, the jaundice of the soul"
--John Dryden [More Quotes from John Dryden]

"Jealousy is the grave of affection."
--Mary Baker Eddy [More Quotes from Mary Baker Eddy]

"What frenzy dictates, jealousy believes."
--John Gay [More Quotes from John Gay]

"Lots of people know a good thing the minute the other fellow sees it first."
--Job E. Hedges [More Quotes from Job E. Hedges]

"There is never jealousy where there is not strong regard."
--Washington Irving [More Quotes from Washington Irving]

"Jealousy is all the fun you think they had."
--Erica Jong [More Quotes from Erica Jong]

"She suspected him of infidelity, with and without reason, morning, noon and night."
--Ada Leverson [More Quotes from Ada Leverson]

"It is matrimonial suicide to be jealous when you have a really good reason."
--Clare Boothe Luce [More Quotes from Clare Boothe Luce]

"The way to hold a husband is to keep him a little jealous; the way to lose him is to keep him a little more jealous."
--H. L. Mencken [More Quotes from H. L. Mencken]

"Jealousy is the injured lover's hell."
--John Milton [More Quotes from John Milton]

"I believe she would be jealous of a find day, if her husband praised it."
--Hanna Moore [More Quotes from Hanna Moore]

"jealousy is the most dreadfully involuntary of all sins."
--Iris Murdoch [More Quotes from Iris Murdoch]

"The knives of jealousy are honed on details."
--Ruth Rendell [More Quotes from Ruth Rendell]

"In jealousy there is more of self-love than of love to another."
--Franois De La Rochefoucauld [More Quotes from Franois De La Rochefoucauld]

"jealousy is always born with love, but does not always die with it."
--Franois De La Rochefoucauld [More Quotes from Franois De La Rochefoucauld]

"Jealousy lives upon doubts. It becomes madness or ceases entirely as soon as we pass from doubt to certainty."
--Franois De La Rochefoucauld [More Quotes from Franois De La Rochefoucauld]

"Jealousy is the tie that binds, and binds, and binds."
--Helen Rowland [More Quotes from Helen Rowland]

"To jealousy, nothing is more frightful than laughter."
--Francoise Sagan [More Quotes from Francoise Sagan]

"And oft, my jealousy shapes faults that are not."
--William Shakespeare [More Quotes from William Shakespeare]

"O, beware, my lord, of jealousy;It is the green-eyed monster which doth mockThe meat it feeds on."
--William Shakespeare [More Quotes from William Shakespeare]

"Jealousy is cruel as the grave."
--Ths Shulamite [More Quotes from Ths Shulamite]

"Moral indignation is jealousy with a halo."
--H.G. Wells [More Quotes from H.G. Wells]

"Plain women are always jealous of their husbands, beautiful women never are. They are always so occupied with being jealous of other women's husbands."
--Oscar Wilde [More Quotes from Oscar Wilde]